Growing up children are like clay - you can mould them in any shape you want. A lot of young parents want to create the "perfect" life for their kids - filled with each and everything their heart desires. This could include a beautiful house, exotic holidays, latest toys, and the best of everything. However, while indulging your child once in a while is fine, kids want much more from their parents, and no it does not include materialistic things! Here are 5 things kids "really" want from their parents. Take notes parents!
Love and acceptance, without condition
This one is a given, yet so underrated! After all, everyone loves their children right? Yet, children need to know that they are loved no matter what. This means loving them for who they are, not just for what they do or how well they behave. Unconditional love gives kids a sense of security and self-worth. It helps them feel safe to make mistakes, try new things, and be themselves.
What to do
Say “I love you” often, even after a tough day
Give hugs, smiles, and gentle touches.
Accept your child’s unique personality, interests, and quirks. Each child is unique
Avoid comparing them to others
When children feel truly accepted, they are more confident and resilient.
Quality Time and Attention
While it is important to stay close to your kids, it is important to let go as well. Kids want to feel trusted and capable. Giving them chances to make choices and do things on their own helps them learn responsibility and confidence. It also shows that you believe in them. It is okay if they make mistakes as well (that is the only way they will learn)
What to do
Let your child make age-appropriate choices, like picking their clothes or choosing a snack/movie
Allow them to try new tasks, even if it takes longer or gets messy.
Support their interests, even if they’re different from your own.
Be there to guide and help, but don’t do everything for them.
When children are given space to grow, they develop important life skills and a sense of independence.
Understanding and Empathy
Children want their parents to understand how they feel and what they’re going through. When parents listen and show empathy, kids feel valued and supported. This helps them learn to handle their own emotions and build strong relationships. Parents must learn to REALLY listen to what their kids want to say, and not brush apart their feelings.
What to do
Listen carefully when your child talks about their feelings.
Acknowledge their emotions: “I see you’re upset,” or “It’s okay to feel sad.”
Avoid dismissing or minimizing their feelings.
Share your own feelings in a simple way, so they learn it’s normal to have ups and downs.
Empathy from parents teaches children to trust, communicate, and care for others.
